Posts by Big Softie

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Lying about divorce reason to be allowed to re-marry

by Big Softie in

i know my view on this but would be interested to see what anyone else thinks.. .

at a court hearing recently my estranged wife, who left me (i'm not jw) asked me if i would be prepared to lie to her elders and state that i had committed adultery (i didn't) so that she would be allowed to "get on in her faith".

this from a woman who before she left got intimate (emotionally, i'm not sure about physically) with two "sisters", one of whom took to buying her large bunches of red roses and basicaly furnished her new house for her.. now my view is that she has clearly stated and put in writing that the marriage ended because of my unreasonable behaviour (i.e.

Big Softie

I know my view on this but would be interested to see what anyone else thinks.

At a court hearing recently my estranged wife, who left me (I'm not JW) asked me if I would be prepared to lie to her elders and state that I had committed adultery (I didn't) so that she would be allowed to "get on in her faith". This from a woman who before she left got intimate (emotionally, I'm not sure about physically) with two "sisters", one of whom took to buying her large bunches of red roses and basicaly furnished her new house for her.

Now my view is that she has clearly stated and put in writing that the marriage ended because of my unreasonable behaviour (i.e. I wouldn't become a JW or force my kids to join the cult either) and so asking me to lie as to why the marriage ended just so she can re-married is totally against the JW doctrines she continually states she totally believes in and would be starting a new life based on a big fat lie.

Is this simply yet another clear demonstration of the JW Cult members willingness to lie and bend / break their own rules to get what they want and have the elders once again put her up to it?

Not sure the big man upstairs would be too pleased.

Comments please.

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How JW's Have Fun

by Sour Grapes in

3 months ago one of my friends emailed me that.

he was invited to a jw "get together" to have some.

fun.

Big Softie

My estranged-wife's (JW - no I didn't commit adultery) life was always a social whirl. Virtually non-stop events, attraction visits, group walks, group picnics, Balls, parties etc. etc.

In fact she is so busy socially that when she hasn't got our children she doesn't stay at her house as she is always somewhere else...that and the fact she is terrified of being in the house by herself (no distractions to stop her thinking about all the lies she's told I expect).

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Dad,s why did we raise our sons as JW,s ..Fathers not born in.

by jam in

in the 60,s-70,s before i became a jw, my life was wonderful.

sports in school,.

dating, parties all the normal things a teenger would enjoy.

Big Softie

Just to add my 10 pence worth (English) my JW born and raised estranged wife and I had an agreement that our children would be raised religiously neutral as I'm not a JW. As you'll be unsurprised to learn, this wasn't acceptable to her elders and they put her under enormous pressure to bring the girls to meetings and to raise them as JW's and in the end it destroyed our marriage. This wasn't helped by my brother in law being an elder and my wife running to her sister and him whenever we had issues. I watched a beautiful person, full of promise disappear before my very eyes.

2 years and 8 court appearances later we have joint residency and custody, the girls have totally rejected the cult and my wife is bound by the court not to involve them in any form of worship or religious activity for it. They are of course still trying to get the girls to accept her view of the world so its very encouraging to read that you guys have already been there and come out the other side.

Thought the thread on the Elders guide book and mental illness was very good. I learned a lot, mainly that my experiences with my wife were not unusual.

Cheers